Remember this today

Allah loves
those who
control anger.

Not the ones who never feel it. The ones who feel it — and hold it back.

۞ ✦ ۞
وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ
“…those who restrain anger and pardon people.”
QURAN 3:134 — PART OF THE VERSE
Do this. In order.

Tap each one when it's done.

When he's angry.

You can't control him. You can control what happens next. Your goal right now is to lower the heat — not to win.

Do

  • Lower your voice below his
  • Let him finish. Don't cut in
  • Stay still — no pointing, no eye-rolling
  • Say his point back to him so he knows he was heard
  • Give space: “Let's talk in 20 minutes”
  • Bring water or tea. Small kindness cools fast
  • Fix the problem later, when he's calm

Don't

  • Shout back — it doubles the fire
  • Say “calm down” or “you're crazy”
  • Bring up old fights
  • Involve his family or yours mid-fight
  • Demand answers while he's shouting
  • Threaten or slam doors
  • Try to prove you're right now
Say this — tap to copy
Later, when he's calm
  • Pick a quiet time. Not at night, not when hungry.
  • Start with “I” not “you.” “I felt scared when you shouted.”
  • One issue only. Don't stack them.
  • Ask what helps him: space, silence, a walk? Agree on a signal for next time.
  • Make du'a for him. Ask Allah to soften his heart.
⚠ Important

Controlling your response is not the same as accepting harm. If there is hitting, threats, or fear for your safety — that is not anger, that is abuse. Leave the situation, tell someone you trust, and get help. Islam never asks you to stay in danger.

“The strong one is not the one who overpowers people. The strong one is the one who controls himself when he is angry.”

PROPHET MUHAMMAD ﷺ — BUKHARI